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Lola Phoenix

Be your own game changer

I’m a 38 year old White British cis pansexual woman. I met my partner B in January 2020. We are currently in a closed V dynamic. B has a long term, live in partner called J. We have had periods where we have both dated other people but that’

Episode 68: Mismatched Labels

If your partner is polyamorous but you are non-monogamous is your relationship doomed? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is your ideal polyamory or non-monogamy set-up? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. https:

Becoming a third

Up until 2 months ago, I had no previous experience with poly[am] dating or poly[am] relationships. What draws me to solo poly[am] is I have very deep needs around emotional connection and physical intimacy, but I don’t want kids or to raise a family, I enjoy

Episode 67: Temporary Monogamy

Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life? Listen below. You can also find the podcast

Preventing hurt feelings

I am fairly new to the world of non-monogamy, having only been introduced to it in May 2020. Through learning about the different constructs that can be applied to a designer relationship I have discovered that this lifestyle could suit me well. Mostly as it encourages me to address the

Episode 66: Hidden Metamour

Even if you have confusing boundaries and you’re not “official”, lying by omission can still feel like cheating. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. 💡Discussion Topic: What is a non-monogamous setup that wouldn’t work for you? Listen here. You can also find

HSV 2 and polyamory

I've been in a wonderful V-triad for 3 years and I love my partner & metamour! Recently, I tested positive for genital herpes and they've both been beyond supportive but they seem *too supportive* which I didn't think could be possible. I suggested closing

Episode 65: No Longer Primary

How do you force yourself out of apathy if you feel the partner you want to settle down with is slipping away? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How has your ideal lifestyle changed over time? Listen below. You can also find

Hiding partners from each other

I am monogamous, but I have been dating someone who identifies as poly for almost three years. We began our relationship while he had another girlfriend. That was a fairly traumatic time for me because I struggled with dealing with my emotions of jealousy, feeling less than and finding my

Episode 64: What Rules to Have

Will the rules you want to put in place prevent what you think they will prevent? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: If you could pick to either read your partner’s mind or have them read yours, which would you pick?