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Episode 49: Wanting Monogamy

A partner comes to you asking if you'd consider monogamy and then changes their mind later on, but you're still stuck on wanting it. What do you do? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is one behaviour

Crushing on a monogamous friend

I am a polyamorous non-binary man in a very happy three-year relationship with a another polyamorous man. This question isn’t about my partner, but rather about a monogamous friend I have named James. I met James about four months ago at a school event and, maybe blame NRE, but

Episode 48: Too Much NRE

Is 18 months long enough to wait for someone to decide if polyamory is for them? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is your love language? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. https:

Addressing sexual incompatibility

CW: This question contains explicit sexual discussion. I love my husband, we met almost 20 years ago now. We met online on an Alternative Lifestyle website. He was listed as a submissive and I a switch. We are the best of friends and I love him dearly. We were engaged

Episode 47: Harem Boy

If a man says that all men want a harem of submissive, subservient women, should you be concerned? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: If you could create your ideal pornography, what would it feature? Listen below. You can also find the

Slutshaming and polyamory

I identify as non monogamous, all my partners know that about me, and I feel very sure about this lifestyle for me. I’m currently closely dating a man who also claims that he is non monogamous, the last month we have been living with each other and I haven’

Episode 46: STI Risk

How worried should you be about STI risk if you are immunocompromised? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Why do you think your parents are the way they are? What were the pressures and difficulties they were under? Listen below. You can

When your partner isn’t satisfied

CW: This week’s column discusses mentions of weight loss. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly five years now and over the last year I've put on some weight, I've always been a little chunky but now it’s become a real issue

Episode 45: Sex Work and Polyamory

What resources are available for someone who asks about dating a sex worker? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What do you blame your parents for? Listen below. You can also find the podcast on Spotify, Apple, and other providers. https://anchor.

Consent and cuckolding

I am a widower of 2 years, I was married for 31 years and the last 10 years I was a cuckold to my wife. In the last two years I have been listening to podcasts and reading blogs on the subject of cuckolding (sometime called “Hotwifing”) and one question