Responsibility and metamours

I found your blog and I’ve never been so happy to see anything in my whole life. I have a poly[am] boyfriend. For the past 6 months we’ve been monogamous(I was under the impression we were not). My bf decided he wants to have a more

I am a 45yr old female (monogamous). Nearly a year ago I met a man who is 43 yrs old and identifies as polyamorous. I had never heard of it and was curious. At first I dismissed it as being an excuse to have several partners (sexual) but after he

I’ve been in a serious relationship with a guy who has recently started to identify as poly[am]. He still has strong feelings for two of his ex girlfriends, but when he and I started dating neither of them was available (and they still aren’t, one is in

I’m single and have been divorced for five years. (I was in a traditional monogamous marriage for 28 years.) I’ve dated many men in the five years I’ve been divorced and have enjoyed being open about enjoying sex and trying lots of new sexual experiences. In the

I am writing to ask for some advice on a non-monogamy situation that has turned ugly. I have a feeling I know what the right thing to do is, but want to make sure I have covered all of my bases. In the past 6 months, I broke up with

My partner and I have been together for 2.5 years. Our relationship has always been open (we are both poly). I am autistic. He recently started seeing a girl that I have issues with, and may have knocked her up on Sunday. He handled the situation with less tact

This is a follow up column from ‘When someone’s rules become your own’. Thank you so much for your detailed and thoughtful response — it couldn’t have come at a better time. I say this because the situation has changed somewhat since I wrote to you, though unfortunately it’

I’m fairly new to poly[am], and as such I am making plenty of mistakes. Usually I can see where I (or, in some cases, the other person) has gone wrong, but this one is doing my head in. I have a wonderful husband and two lovers in my

I am a woman in a stable open relationship with a man (let’s call him Steve). I have never felt any particular draw to polyamory for myself, but our relationship has been open since the beginning — he is bisexual and when we met already had a FWB-type arrangement going

A few months ago my partner and I decided to open our monogamous relationship. It’s something that we had talked about since we met and something that both of us had tried or were interested in long before meeting. We both read your column and have done a lot