So, you’ve decided to give polyamory or some form of non-monogamy a shot but you’re not quite sure where to start or you might even be wondering if you’re polyamorous or not. Maybe you have read a few things here and there or nothing at all. Or maybe you have started already, and you’ve done … Thirteen Mistakes People Make When Trying Polyamory
When I tell people that I am not monogamous or I try to explain polyamory, the first question they tend to ask is, “Don’t you get jealous?” For some people, the thought of their partner being interested in, let alone dating someone else creates so much pain for them that they not only will express … Don’t you get jealous?
This is the second post in a series of blogs about the most common advice offered to polyamorous people, specifically newbies, why it’s useless and what you can do instead. “Feel bad? You must be jealous.” I’ve written a bit about this in “Thirteen things I wish I’d learnt before choosing non-monogamy”. When you’re first … Useless Polyam Advice: Jealousy vs. Fear
This is the first post in a series of blogs I plan to do about the most common advice offered to polyamorous people, specifically newbies, why it’s useless and what you can do instead. “Just believe in yourself” Spongebob Squarepants is owned by Viacom, not myself. The number one thing said to you when you’re scared … Useless Polyam Advice: Self-worth
This article was written in 2017, so it is possible my perspective has shifted since then however the crux of my argument regarding the use of the term remains. I’ve seen this concept floating around for a long time and I’ve always not really agreed with it or liked it, but it’s taken me awhile … Five reasons ‘Couples privilege’ doesn’t exist
Hierarchies are seen as an inherently negative thing within many polyamorous subcultures, but very myopically. There’s a focus on having a primary/secondary structure as always problematic but I actually find that there’s a hierarchy that’s not really spoken about — and that’s the the role and value sex has in relationships. The role of hierarchies in polyamory … The hierarchy polyamorous people don’t talk enough about
In a previous article, I talked about nine different ways that toxic parenting can impact the communication you have in non-monogamy. For Valentine’s Day, I wanted to spend this article talking about specific strategies to combat these problems both from my own personal experience and the experiences I’ve heard from others. This is not to … 9 strategies for counteracting toxic parenting in non-monogamy
When reading the opening preface of a self-help book makes you cry, that’s when you buy the book. And that happened to me twice when I read the forward of both Stop Walking on Eggshells and Toxic Parents. Reading these and several other books were the beginnings of me understanding how toxic parenting impacted my … 9 ways toxic parenting impacted your non-monogamy
When you first learn about polyamory or non-monogamy, what most people call ‘open relationships’, you’ll likely be directed to several publications: The Ethical Slut, Opening Up, and the website More Than Two. And these were things I read when I started my journey into non-monogamy. Quickly I found though that there were several lessons I … Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy
When happening upon polyamory, most people are referred to the same sort of material. The book “Opening Up” is often recommended, “The Ethical Slut” and “Sex at Dawn” are becoming some of the popular things to point people toward. Most people are told that there’s no one right way to be polyamorous and that there’s … Non-monogamy and fear
