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Infidelity and sex

How do you navigate the boundaries of STI prevention in an open relationship? Can you cheat and by polyamorous or is polyamory just another way of cheating — but ethically? These entries tackle sexuality, sexual expression, STIs and infidelity.

Hiding partners from each other

I am monogamous, but I have been dating someone who identifies as poly for almost three years. We began our relationship while he had another girlfriend. That was a fairly traumatic time for me because I struggled with dealing with my emotions of jealousy, feeling less than and finding my

Fidelity and grief

I have ADHD and am dealing with the bereavement of both of my parents dying... Cancer... 2016 and 2018... My wife couldn't handle the effect of my ADHD with my grief which caused severe anxiety and depression... I can't really say I blame her. I was

Cheating and polyamory

I am at my wit’s end. I was engaged to be married this summer; in the fall (we postponed for COVID), my fiancé confessed he had cheated on me extensively over years. I already had a bunch of concerns about his behavior in our relationship that I sort of

Addressing sexual incompatibility

CW: This question contains explicit sexual discussion. I love my husband, we met almost 20 years ago now. We met online on an Alternative Lifestyle website. He was listed as a submissive and I a switch. We are the best of friends and I love him dearly. We were engaged

Slutshaming and polyamory

I identify as non monogamous, all my partners know that about me, and I feel very sure about this lifestyle for me. I’m currently closely dating a man who also claims that he is non monogamous, the last month we have been living with each other and I haven’

Episode 46: STI Risk

How worried should you be about STI risk if you are immunocompromised? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Why do you think your parents are the way they are? What were the pressures and difficulties they were under? Listen below. You can

Consent and cuckolding

I am a widower of 2 years, I was married for 31 years and the last 10 years I was a cuckold to my wife. In the last two years I have been listening to podcasts and reading blogs on the subject of cuckolding (sometime called “Hotwifing”) and one question

Polyamory as a last chance

My marriage of 13 years is about to end due to my wife’s infidelity. She cheated in 2010 and this past summer in the wake of my brother’s suicide she dove into an emotional affair with a long-time friend of both of us. This experience has fractured numerous

How to define cheating

Here is my situation. I’ve been with my partner for four months, we started our relationship as another one of mine was ending. I definitely jumped in full force to the relationship, partly because of my heartbreak over the previous one. It turned out to work out really well,

Polyamory to save a marriage

My husband and I married July 2018 and had twin boys September 2018. Before that we were dating for 3 years. I recently learned that he has cheated on me while we dated and also behaved in ways that were not appropriate for a boyfriend. I also learned that he