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Jealousy and polyamory

How do you deal with feelings of jealousy in polyamory? It's the question almost everyone asks -- and it comes up fairly often in columns and podcasts.

Emotions are not demands

Do you have any constructive advice for someone loving with a Meta as a roommate? It's been uniquely difficult compared to previous relationships. I am struggling with the amount of time my primary partner now spends with their new partner. My primary and I have been together monogamously

Episode 76: No Way Out

If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became a hard limit for

Hierarchies causing paranoia

When I met the person (A) I’m seeing now, 5+ years ago, he was seeing other people. At the time I wasn’t particularly interested in anything more than casual anyways so seeing him occasionally suited me. A few months in he told me that he was now in

Episode 69: Self-Sacrificing Too Much

If you’ve given a partner 10 years in monogamy, but they expect you to be happy and feel compersion after deciding to be polyamorous, you might be self-sacrificing a little too much. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. 💡Discussion Topic: What’s one

Episode 67: Temporary Monogamy

Can an aversion to non-monogamy come from relationship anxiety and trauma? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What have you changed your mind about in terms of how you want to live your life? Listen below. You can also find the podcast

Hiding partners from each other

I am monogamous, but I have been dating someone who identifies as poly for almost three years. We began our relationship while he had another girlfriend. That was a fairly traumatic time for me because I struggled with dealing with my emotions of jealousy, feeling less than and finding my

Fidelity and grief

I have ADHD and am dealing with the bereavement of both of my parents dying... Cancer... 2016 and 2018... My wife couldn't handle the effect of my ADHD with my grief which caused severe anxiety and depression... I can't really say I blame her. I was

Episode 63: Visualising Your Partner

What if you can’t see your partner with someone else in your head without feeling terrible? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What is one thing that you didn’t get as a child that you want to now have as

How to ask for reassurance

Much of the advice I have seen about dealing with jealousy in polyamorous relationships involves telling your partner so that you can communicate about it. When I tell my long term partner I am jealous of him and his girlfriend it makes him very sad, and he begins to avoid

Getting over a partner's sexual history

I am 34 years old, female and since more than 10 years I am in an open relationship with my boyfriend. We follow the concept of a “primary relationship” (so most of our daily life we live like a monogamous couple) but we are free to have external sexual contacts.