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Jealousy and polyamory

How do you deal with feelings of jealousy in polyamory? It's the question almost everyone asks -- and it comes up fairly often in columns and podcasts.

Traditional marriage and polyamory

I am in a strange position in my personal life and don’t feel like anybody around me really understands what I’m going through precisely because that would require a deep understanding of non-monogamy, which most people don’t possess. Here’s hoping I’ll find some answers from

Non-monogamy and being replaced

I am 34 and my husband is 39. We’ve been together almost 17 years and have 2 kids. I know now that I am heteroromantic bisexual. I like to be proactive and keep finding ways to keep us engaged and not get bored in our marriage. After looking for

Is this jealousy or something else?

My husband and i have been married for 7 years. I’m 43 he’s 40. We’re young 40’s fit and fun and do well financially. We have 4 kids and are in business together. Not that much matters. But I wanted to give an idea as to

Not believing in monogamy

I’ve been seeing this guy for about 6 months now but we haven’t been very open with how we want our relationship to progress. We spend most of our time together and we have dinner with his family every week. I’m 23 years old and have never

Rules and non-monogamy

CN: This question and column has explicit discussion of sexual acts. My husband and I have started doing soft swaps recently. We’re about two years into the LS.. Once he tried kissing another woman. It upset me at the time. (I believe it is the meaning I attribute to

Do the intense feelings in polyamory ever end?

I’m writing to you because I’ve come to what feels like a breaking point in one of my polyamorous relationships. I’m relatively new to non-monogamy — I began seeing another person for the first time in September 2017. So since then I have been with both my partner

Shortchanged by monogamous culture

I read the subject [of your ‘Is Polyamory Worth The Risk’] article with great intensity. You see, I have been married for over forty years and less than two years ago I confronted my wife with the news that I had been, for most of our marriage seeing sex workers

How to start being polyamorous

For the first time in my life, my paradigms about monogamy vs non-monogamy have been broken. They have been eroded because I seem to meet MANY non-monogamous women which have chipped at my wall of monogamy. I also read the book “Sex At Dawn”. I have three questions I would

When reassurance means denial

My wife and I sat down after our one year anniversary, and she advised me that she has always been polyamorous and wanted to experience this part of herself. I am a monogamist, and even though I do not fully understand this, I told her that I was willing to

Is polyamory worth it?

I am 35 years old and have been in a monogamous relationship with a wonderful man since I was 16, with a half-year break in my early twenties during which we both dated other people. Being apart at that time was horrible and made us both see just how good