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Switching, closing and abuse

These entries are for those trying to figure out the right time to break up, regretting opening or wanting to close the relationship and also for those who may be in dangerous situations.

When your partner isn’t satisfied

CW: This week’s column discusses mentions of weight loss. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly five years now and over the last year I've put on some weight, I've always been a little chunky but now it’s become a real issue

An ex wants to make it right

I was at this relationship that ended badly last night. I only had a few flings after deciding that monogamy wasn’t for me, but I studied a lot, and still do. So I met this guy through some friends in common, he was a non monogamist too, and a

Episode 39: Multiple Escalators

Is it possible to find a “primary” relationship and build it with an already existing close secondary relationship? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: If someone likes me a lot, I start to feel… Listen below. You can also find the podcast

Episode 37: Don’t Want to Share

When you and your partner are dating the same person and you’re tired of sharing. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: List 5 things that are important to you in this life. How much time do you give each of them?

Gaslighting and polyamory

My wife and I started a open marriage about 5 years ago. Prior to that we were active in the lifestyle so seeing each other with other people was no longer an issue for either one of us. My wife was the one that suggested the open relationship and I

Changing your mind in polyamory

I’m a woman and I had only ever been in monogamous relationships. About a year ago I met a man through Tinder who made it very clear he’s non-monogamous from the start. In fact, on our first date, he asked me how I feel about it and explained

When a partner becomes violent

CW: Domestic violence I have been married to a man for over ten years now. He has always been controlling and dominating because that’s how he shows he cares. He has had issues with anger over the years. Despite all this, I liked him and we have been good

When is the right time to end it?

I met a guy on tinder (I’m a guy too) and at the very beginning he made clear to me that he has a boyfriend and that he is not looking for a hook-up and that he would like something more serious. I respected his honesty and I agreed

When you regret opening your relationship

I’m very much in love with my partner. We’ve tried to go from a monogamous relationship to poly[am], to just open to no title at all, just free flowing love. I know I’m interested in a poly[am] relationship because I love to fall in love.

How to break up in polyamory

Do you have any advice about breakups in poly relationships? I realized I’m not sexually into a new partner but am emotionally into them. I realized in most breakups the stories I hear are about “I just want to be alone”, “not sure what I want right now”, “it’