The "Heads Up" Rule

Learn why "heads up" rules often create more conflict than clarity and how to transition from permission-based agreements to healthy autonomy.

Episode 176 - Deciding on Polyamory

Trying to figure out if polyamory is for you while dealing with new relationship energy can be a significant struggle.

Hierarchy vs Life Partner

This person wants a live-in life partner for major decisions, but their current partner opposes hierarchy and must move to another continent.

Episode 175 - Re-release

Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough.

When Transparency Requests Feel Like Control

This person seeks transparency about their partner's polyamorous relationship for security, but their partner feels controlled by the constant questions.

Episode 174 - Kitchen Table Parallel Polyamory

Is it possible to be kitchen table polyam and also have parallel relationships? Absolutely. There is no rule.

Friend Confessed Feelings and Now Partner Wants to Open Up

After a friend confessed feelings, this person's partner agreed to try non-monogamy, but dishonesty about a kiss threatens the whole arrangement.

Episode 173 - Polyamory Chicken

Your brain is telling you a lie: slowing down their relationship won't make your relationship safer.

Don't Ask Don't Tell Ended New Relationship

This person ended a promising new relationship because their primary partner couldn't tolerate any mention of them, creating an unsustainable dynamic.