Shunned in a triad

About four months ago, my long-term girlfriend (Z) and I opened our relationship to include her best friend (A). Seemingly everyone was ok with this, nonmonogamy is something I’ve been interested in, but never experienced. Z and A have also been friends for a very long time and have

Episode 79: Outside Veto

Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How do you feel about giving your friends details about your relationships? Listen here on or on

Emotions are not demands

Do you have any constructive advice for someone loving with a Meta as a roommate? It's been uniquely difficult compared to previous relationships. I am struggling with the amount of time my primary partner now spends with their new partner. My primary and I have been together monogamously

Episode 78: Not Good Enough

Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What would you do if your family did not like one of your partners? Listen here on

Unrealistic personal expectations

My wife [married for 11 years] and I have been ethically non monogamous for a while, mostly swingers. We’ve never had issues about being sexually open but those activities were always together, we never really looked separately, while it helped sort through some feelings that come with going off

Episode 77: Making the Leap

If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: When was the first moment you sort of recognised that you might be polyamorous or interested in non-monogamy?

Struggling to find partners

CW: This letter discusses some adult themes pretty explicitly. I’m 29 and would love to enter a polyamorous relationship but there are several things holding me back from going out and start dating someone: 1) I never had a relationship before in any shape or form so I’m

Episode 76: No Way Out

If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became a hard limit for

Pushed into polyamory

My boyfriend of just a few months decided that he will not be happy and will eventually cheat if he cannot be non-monogamous. Going into this he knew my views on being monogamous but I did not know his. He only said that in the past he's a

Episode 75: Overreacting

Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became