Unrealistic personal expectations

My wife [married for 11 years] and I have been ethically non monogamous for a while, mostly swingers. We’ve never had issues about being sexually open but those activities were always together, we never really looked separately, while it helped sort through some feelings that come with going off

Episode 77: Making the Leap

If non-monogamy is a no go, should you say goodbye to a five year relationship on a hunch? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: When was the first moment you sort of recognised that you might be polyamorous or interested in non-monogamy?

Struggling to find partners

CW: This letter discusses some adult themes pretty explicitly. I’m 29 and would love to enter a polyamorous relationship but there are several things holding me back from going out and start dating someone: 1) I never had a relationship before in any shape or form so I’m

Episode 76: No Way Out

If you feel you’re between crushing emotions and a family breakdown, you might feel like there’s no way out. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became a hard limit for

Pushed into polyamory

My boyfriend of just a few months decided that he will not be happy and will eventually cheat if he cannot be non-monogamous. Going into this he knew my views on being monogamous but I did not know his. He only said that in the past he's a

Episode 75: Overreacting

Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became

Honest from the beginning

I recently tracked down a guy who was an almost boyfriend in college. I had already met my future husband, even though we weren't dating yet, and that held me back. Even though we never got together, this guy and I really clicked as friends & he even

Episode 74: Dating Friendly

In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What makes a friend different from a partner to you? Listen

Being thrown away

I had until recently a relationship with a partner, we were together for 1,5 years. He was wonderful, fun, loving. He lives in a different city but would come to visit me every other month. He has another partner who he has been with for a little more than

Episode 73: Caveat Emptor

It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What “meaning” do you attach to sex, if any? And why? This episode