Pushed into polyamory

My boyfriend of just a few months decided that he will not be happy and will eventually cheat if he cannot be non-monogamous. Going into this he knew my views on being monogamous but I did not know his. He only said that in the past he's a

Episode 75: Overreacting

Your short term partner is snapping and says it’s a joke and your long term partner says you’re overreacting. How do you deal? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: Talk about one hard limit you have and how it became

Honest from the beginning

I recently tracked down a guy who was an almost boyfriend in college. I had already met my future husband, even though we weren't dating yet, and that held me back. Even though we never got together, this guy and I really clicked as friends & he even

Episode 74: Dating Friendly

In starting out in polyamory, most people want to make rules — like no dating friends or family. It’s worth thinking more about that rule. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What makes a friend different from a partner to you? Listen

Being thrown away

I had until recently a relationship with a partner, we were together for 1,5 years. He was wonderful, fun, loving. He lives in a different city but would come to visit me every other month. He has another partner who he has been with for a little more than

Episode 73: Caveat Emptor

It’s easy to think you might be interest in non-monogamy, but what if you have some conflicting feelings when theory becomes practice? That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: What “meaning” do you attach to sex, if any? And why? This episode

Betraying yourself for others

My ex and I were together for a year and nine months. He was my first relationship and first sexual encounter. He is fifteen years my senior, and we met when I was eighteen. I didn't know about his actual age, or the fact he had a girlfriend

Episode 72: Problematic Pedestal

When you put one partner on a pedestal, it can cause a lot of constant anxiety. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How do you deal with expressions of emotion? Sadness? Anger This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Use our affiliate link

Hierarchies causing paranoia

When I met the person (A) I’m seeing now, 5+ years ago, he was seeing other people. At the time I wasn’t particularly interested in anything more than casual anyways so seeing him occasionally suited me. A few months in he told me that he was now in

Episode 71: Feelings and Friends

We create rules sometimes about what our partners can do because we’re afraid of losing them, but sometimes the rules we make don’t actually change anything. That’s what’s on this week’s episode of Non-Monogamy Help. Discussion Topic: How do you introduce the topic of STIs