Ultimatums and polyamory

I’m a woman in my late 40’s, married for 4 years to a woman in her early 50’s. About a year ago, we decided to open our marriage and date other people. We were both on board. We shared a couple of threesomes, and all was well.

Treating “secondaries” poorly

I’m single and have been divorced for five years. (I was in a traditional monogamous marriage for 28 years.) I’ve dated many men in the five years I’ve been divorced and have enjoyed being open about enjoying sex and trying lots of new sexual experiences. In the

Incompatibility and polyamory

I have a very unique and complicated relationship that I need help with. I am M, 23, and my partner is F, 25. I read in some of your posts that just because you’re different doesn’t mean you’re incompatible. I want to start by listing some of

When should you express love?

I’m a twenty something who has only ever been in polyam/non-monog relationships. I’m currently living with a partner who I have been with for a year, who I’ll call Poppy in this email. I have another partner, who I’ll call Lilly, who lives with one

When you regret opening your relationship

I’m very much in love with my partner. We’ve tried to go from a monogamous relationship to poly[am], to just open to no title at all, just free flowing love. I know I’m interested in a poly[am] relationship because I love to fall in love.

When your partner hates your metamour

I am writing to ask for some advice on a non-monogamy situation that has turned ugly. I have a feeling I know what the right thing to do is, but want to make sure I have covered all of my bases. In the past 6 months, I broke up with

Do the intense feelings in polyamory ever end?

I’m writing to you because I’ve come to what feels like a breaking point in one of my polyamorous relationships. I’m relatively new to non-monogamy — I began seeing another person for the first time in September 2017. So since then I have been with both my partner

Should you do monogamy if you can’t?

I’m in a male in a monogamous hetero relationship. I think I’m poly[am] by predisposition, not by choice, and I explained that her before entering into the mono relationship. I went into the relationship anyways b/c I don’t have much relationship experience, I really love

Can one person meet all your needs?

Am I Poly[am]? I need help with deciding whether I’m poly and whether to tell my wife. OK, so, we’ve been married for 24 years. I love my wife very much. It’s not the same romantic one that we felt before getting married. But we are

Shortchanged by monogamous culture

I read the subject [of your ‘Is Polyamory Worth The Risk’] article with great intensity. You see, I have been married for over forty years and less than two years ago I confronted my wife with the news that I had been, for most of our marriage seeing sex workers