Polyamory after the birth of a new child

I’ve been in a relationship with my current boyfriend — or I should say husband — for a little over three years now. We got married a year ago just before our now one-year-old daughter was born. (Marriage doesn’t have so much meaning to us. It was more for practical

When reassurance means denial

My wife and I sat down after our one year anniversary, and she advised me that she has always been polyamorous and wanted to experience this part of herself. I am a monogamist, and even though I do not fully understand this, I told her that I was willing to

Is polyamory worth it?

I am 35 years old and have been in a monogamous relationship with a wonderful man since I was 16, with a half-year break in my early twenties during which we both dated other people. Being apart at that time was horrible and made us both see just how good

When your partner blames you for cheating

I have been seeing a man for a little over a year now. He States he wants a non monogamous relationship. He and I have had several; so many; conversations about this. I am open minded and am willing to broaden my world to all new experiences. We had agreed

Getting over your partner sleeping with others

I have a question, am looking for advice on the topic of free/ libertine sexuality and eroticism. Me and my boyfriend of 5 years are in a polyamorous relationship. We both have another long term relationship. I am very much in love with my boyfriend and also love my long

Bipolar disorder and polyamory

I am a cis man married to a trans man, we are both about 40. He has had non-monogamous relationships before. I have not, though I am not unadventurous. In the winter last year, we fooled around with another couple. I was not turned on at all by this. For

If you’ve crossed a boundary

This is a follow up column from ‘When someone’s rules become your own’. Thank you so much for your detailed and thoughtful response — it couldn’t have come at a better time. I say this because the situation has changed somewhat since I wrote to you, though unfortunately it’

When you don’t want to open your relationship

My partner of 8 years has suddenly decided that she’s poly[am] and (apparently) was the entire time. I’m of the opinion that she’s done irreparable damage to our relationship by even bringing this idea up. The idea of her being with anyone else is completely unappealing

Balancing imbalances in polyamory

I am married and have been in a long term relationship with my nesting partner for a little less than a year (we dated for about 4 years off and on prior to that). We live together and are building a future together with house, kids, and all that. Recently,

When someone else’s rules become yours

I’m fairly new to poly[am], and as such I am making plenty of mistakes. Usually I can see where I (or, in some cases, the other person) has gone wrong, but this one is doing my head in. I have a wonderful husband and two lovers in my