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Useless Polyam Advice: Self-worth

This is the first post in a series of blogs I plan to do about the most common advice offered to polyamorous people, specifically newbies, why it’s useless and what you can do instead. “Just believe in yourself” The number one thing said to you when you’re scared

Five reasons ‘Couples privilege’ doesn’t exist

This article was written in 2017, so it is possible my perspective has shifted since then however the crux of my argument regarding the use of the term remains. I’ve seen this concept floating around for a long time and I’ve always not really agreed with it or

How to break up in polyamory

Do you have any advice about breakups in poly relationships? I realized I’m not sexually into a new partner but am emotionally into them. I realized in most breakups the stories I hear are about “I just want to be alone”, “not sure what I want right now”, “it’

The hierarchy polyamorous people don’t talk enough about

Hierarchical polyamory is seen as an inherently negative thing within many polyamorous subcultures, but very myopically. There’s a focus on having a primary/secondary structure as always problematic but I actually find that there’s a hierarchy that’s not really spoken about — and that’s the the role

Hypersexuality and polyamory

I’m now in a relationship, we had “something” between us for a while but only about a month ago, as it became more intense and also we had some problems, we’ve decided to say we’re together. It’s an open relationship, and we mostly expect clear communication

Switching back to monogamy

I'm new to polyamory, as I'm sure many of the people who contact you are, and i feel like im in a bit of a hard place right now. I’ve been seeing my amazing partner for just under a year now and while shes had

Lack of polyamorous family role models?

Hi there! I am a 31 year old that identifies as female, bisexual, and kinky. I have a primary partner, as well as a secondary partner and a play partner that I see very occasionally. My dilemma is this — I really want to start a family in the next 1–

9 strategies for counteracting toxic parenting in non-monogamy

In a previous article, I talked about nine different ways that toxic parenting can impact the communication you have in non-monogamy. For Valentine’s Day, I wanted to spend this article talking about specific strategies to combat these problems both from my own personal experience and the experiences I’ve

Can you turn infidelity into polyamory?

My spouse and I have been together for 18 years this year. Last August, I was pushed into a sceneries I didn’t think I’d ever find myself in. He had met a woman and wanted to either open our marriage, [o]r have a triad. (We had had

See-sawing feelings in polyamory

About three months ago, I started seeing a girl (let’s call her Jenny) who I knew through a mutual friend (I’m a cis straight man, she’s a cis bi girl, neither of us have any prior experience with non-monogamous dating) with the understanding that we would stay