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How to break up in polyamory

Do you have any advice about breakups in poly relationships? I realized I’m not sexually into a new partner but am emotionally into them. I realized in most breakups the stories I hear are about “I just want to be alone”, “not sure what I want right now”, “it’

The hierarchy polyamorous people don’t talk enough about

Hierarchical polyamory is seen as an inherently negative thing within many polyamorous subcultures, but very myopically. There’s a focus on having a primary/secondary structure as always problematic but I actually find that there’s a hierarchy that’s not really spoken about — and that’s the the role

Hypersexuality and polyamory

I’m now in a relationship, we had “something” between us for a while but only about a month ago, as it became more intense and also we had some problems, we’ve decided to say we’re together. It’s an open relationship, and we mostly expect clear communication

Switching back to monogamy

I'm new to polyamory, as I'm sure many of the people who contact you are, and i feel like im in a bit of a hard place right now. I’ve been seeing my amazing partner for just under a year now and while shes had

Lack of polyamorous family role models?

Hi there! I am a 31 year old that identifies as female, bisexual, and kinky. I have a primary partner, as well as a secondary partner and a play partner that I see very occasionally. My dilemma is this — I really want to start a family in the next 1–

9 strategies for counteracting toxic parenting in non-monogamy

In a previous article, I talked about nine different ways that toxic parenting can impact the communication you have in non-monogamy. For Valentine’s Day, I wanted to spend this article talking about specific strategies to combat these problems both from my own personal experience and the experiences I’ve

Can you turn infidelity into polyamory?

My spouse and I have been together for 18 years this year. Last August, I was pushed into a sceneries I didn’t think I’d ever find myself in. He had met a woman and wanted to either open our marriage, [o]r have a triad. (We had had

See-sawing feelings in polyamory

About three months ago, I started seeing a girl (let’s call her Jenny) who I knew through a mutual friend (I’m a cis straight man, she’s a cis bi girl, neither of us have any prior experience with non-monogamous dating) with the understanding that we would stay

Telling a crush that you’re polyamorous

How do I bring up that I’m polyamorous to someone I met outside of a polyamorous space who may or may not have ever thought about polyamory before? It’s a guy who I’m crushing on, who I think is crushing on me, too, but I haven’t

Non-monogamy without the turmoil

I am in an eight year relationship that has been mostly monogamous. The past few years we started dabbling in opening up but initially with the idea that we would never “go all the way”. We started reading the books and meeting lots of people in various non-monogamous relationships and