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Telling a crush that you’re polyamorous

How do I bring up that I’m polyamorous to someone I met outside of a polyamorous space who may or may not have ever thought about polyamory before? It’s a guy who I’m crushing on, who I think is crushing on me, too, but I haven’t

Non-monogamy without the turmoil

I am in an eight year relationship that has been mostly monogamous. The past few years we started dabbling in opening up but initially with the idea that we would never “go all the way”. We started reading the books and meeting lots of people in various non-monogamous relationships and

Feeling valued in non-monogamy

How do I feel special when things I share with my partner are also shared with her other partner? The reason I titled this blog ‘valued’ is because, in essence, I think that when we talk about the special things we do with romantic partners, we’re meaning that the

Stagnating vs. relationship escalator

I’m currently married to a wonderful man and in a relationship with a lovely boyfriend for the last eighteen months. This is my first foray into a serious relationship outside of my primary relationship, although I’ve been open with my husband since the start. I’m struggling a

9 ways toxic parenting impacted your non-monogamy

When reading the opening preface of a self-help book makes you cry, that’s when you buy the book. And that happened to me twice when I read the forward of both Stop Walking on Eggshells and Toxic Parents. Reading these and several other books were the beginnings of me

Thirteen things I wish I’d learned before choosing non-monogamy

When you first learn about polyamory or non-monogamy, what most people call ‘open relationships’, you’ll likely be directed to several publications: The Ethical Slut, Opening Up, and the website More Than Two. And these were things I read when I started my journey into non-monogamy. Quickly I found though

Non-monogamy and fear

When happening upon polyamory, most people are referred to the same sort of material. The book “Opening Up” is often recommended, “The Ethical Slut” and “Sex at Dawn” are becoming some of the popular things to point people toward. Most people are told that there’s no one right way

The pressure to be 'into it'

“Sex positive” spaces emphasise the importance of consent. It comes from a good place, but I don’t think there’s enough awareness within them of how boundaries, mental illness, and surviving abuse intertwine. The combination of the three can make navigating these spaces difficult. I’m hoping that by

Why I don’t identify as “poly”

Around two or so years ago, I identified as “polyamorous”. In 2012, I stopped calling myself “poly” for a variety of reasons, and instead chose to call myself “non-monogamous”. I want to share the reasons I stopped associating with the poly[am] community in part as a way to express